An Easy Way To Handle Rejections And Objections In Your Relationship

By Cucan Pemo

I often get these questions from my readers, "What if he doesn't return my calls?", "What if she doesn't reply my mails?", "I send him a card and I haven't heard from him until now.", "What if she doesn't want to connect? I don't want to sound like i'm
manipulative.", "I have changed for the better, but how can I make her see the new me and experience the new me if she doesn't want to connect?", "He hasn't contact me for 3 weeks! What am I doing to do?"

So, today, I'm gong to share with you a story of a salesman and what I have learnt from him.

This salesman possesses in his hands a golden secret which can help you make relationship and love work for you again, even if all you are receiving are negative responses and rejections!

You may not know this, but do you know what whatever it is that you hold a strong belief on – whether you realize it or not, whether consciously or subconsciously – how your environment will be, how people will react and respond to you, will exactly be THAT which will support what you believe to be true?

In other words, your reality is THAT which matches your beliefs!

As within, so without.

The evidence and proofs (that YOU want to see) will start to spring up from everywhere around you, so that you'll feel that
it feels right things are the way they are right now.

De-hypnotize yourself now!

Here is the story of a salesman which I would like to share with you here. His story will open up your eyes and your mind to seeking a creative solution for yourself if you like to make a connection with your dream date, or even to make a re-connection with your current partner.

Once a young salesman cornered a professional salesman after a seminar, to complain passionately about the executive he had to deal with at one of his
key accounts.

"Everytime I go to him with a new product, a new idea, a better way of doing things," he said, "he instantly shoots it down or brushes me off. How am I ever going to expand this account's value if I can't even get my ideas listened to? There's just no point even telling this guy about anything new."

I asked,"How do you usually approach this fellow with your ideas?" I listened as the salesman described when and how he went to this customer with new products or ideas. He described what he said and what the client said.

"Does it always happen like that?" I inquired.

"Absolutely," the salesman said. "It's as if there was a script and we each read out parts."

"It might as well be," I told him. "As long as you make the same first move, he is going to make the same second move. You and he are having the same chess match over and over again. Because you are frustrated with this client, you keep approaching him exactly the same way, just waiting for his unsatisfactory response. And you get it.

Let me tell you what a person with the habit of optimistic response might do.

First, he would STOP doing the same thing over and over.

Second, he would know two things in his heart: one, that this person can be reached, interested, opened up, even inspired - because EVERY human being can be!

Third, he would keep trying different approaches until one proved effective."

If whatever methods or approaches you are making is not working for you to make that connection again, STOP using the same unproductive approaches over and over again.

Secondly, realize that EVERY human beings can be inspired and motivated. Make the efforts to find out what motivates your partner or your spouse, NOW. Remember that what motivates him/her years ago might not be the same as of TODAY. But one truth about human nature stays the same throughout centuries. Everyone of us needs a little uplifting every now and then.

Third, if that salesman comes up to me and all he wants to talk about is himself and how good his products are, I WILL stop listening. You see, I'm sick of listening to sales pitch.

Think about this, if all you want to do is to come up to me and talk about why YOU are needed by me and why YOU should be staying by my side, even "brainstorming" with me why I am wrong and why YOU are right, I would have to ask you to go away and leave me alone. 

Truth is, I'm sick of listening to the same old things over and over again. Do you have anything better and more refreshing to do and say THAT WILL UPLIFT MY SPIRIT?

The story of the salesman is extracted from the wonderful book “Zero Resistance Selling” by Dan Kennedy. You can get this book from any bookstores. I have gained tons of insights and wisdom which I can readily apply in my personal and love life just from this wonderful book alone.

We shall select our life partners with utmost care, for their ability and desire to contribute to, and share in the common enterprise. Some people will discover that, despite their best efforts, they have chosen wrongly, and will have to start all over again from scratch. Yet such a decision will be too seri­ous to be made without the most exacting investigation by competent specialists.

To go into a love relationship or even to marry is to enter upon a building program. The job of each couple who come together is to construct a permanent home for themselves in which they can best raise their children. A good relationship, like a good house, must have more than at­tractive features and glamour. It must be constructed of good materials. It must be constructed soundly enough to be able to weather the winters and storms of adversity and dis­appointment as well as the summer days of pleasure. Building any sound structure means work. Often you must expect in­conveniences and difficulties; unsolved problems and bits of adjustment not yet made part of the structure. There will be backaches and heartaches.

A good relationship or marriage should be livable. Our fathers were often satisfied with a marriage stalwart enough to stand up during the years. We of today demand more. We want our marriages to do more than to shelter and to protect. They should be so designed as to provide ample opportunity for rich and satis­fying living. If marriages are to meet this demand, they must be carefully planned. Such planning requires not only intel­ligence, but technical knowledge. We shall wish to consult, at least through their books, our matrimonial architects.

What do we get for all this? Lots of fun, because build­ing is fun; among the most satisfying of all activities. We get a house of relationships in which to live. It would be easier and cheaper to find some cave of selfishness to occupy. It would be quicker and less expensive to begin with, to throw up some shack of temporary sex relationships. But such expedients could not provide us with a home. And so we will continue to demand habitations of relationships fit for civilized people, because only so can we be most truly human.