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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last ? Part 6 .. Continued

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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last ? Part 6 .. Continued    By J. Foley

Do yourself a favor if you don’t have a backbone get one quick. Being nice, shy and a good man doesn’t mean you should give in to the wants and desires of the women you like or love. Please stand for something. If a woman leaves you for standing up for what you believe in then she wasn’t for you anyway.
As a nice guy, by the time you reach thirty you should be living comfortable. And you will begin to look like a good catch. You will have the “stability” and “security” factors a lot of women look for when selecting a mate.
However, that doesn’t mean women will want you. You must have your act together, not have any emotional or psychological issues and hidden agendas. A woman does not want to assume your problems when you could have dealt with them on your own before you met her.
Oh yeah, you’re probably wondering, “What happens to the guys who got all the women when I couldn’t get any?”  Well, nothing happens to them. They will still be there. However, the women will wake up and realize that having a long-lasting relationship with them just won’t work. Especially if the men didn’t grow and mature. Most of them were players, cheaters, superficial, self-centered and can’t be with one woman.
Believe it or not many of them will be nice guys who converted to the “Bad Boy” in hopes of getting more women! The sad part is while they may have gotten more women they cannot keep them.
Once the women see you and realize that being a nice guy, shy guy or good guy is not bad after all you begin to look dam good and sexy too! Of course be careful because you need to identify what they want and need from you. And that’s where being their friend comes into play!  Stay Tuned !!

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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last (Part 5) Continued ;

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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last (part 5) Continued ;    By J. Foley

Remember, there is a shortage of men in the United States and around the world. So, if the woman you pick knows she can trust you it’s a plus and will go a long way in eliminating many issues that could have popped up in the future.
For example, I have a friend who knew I was interested in her. Yet, nothing happened between us for over a year. When I ended a relationship with my lady it opened the door for the possibility of my friend and I to spend time with each other and have fun!
My being honest, upfront and not making a move on her when I had a lady gained her respect and trust. If the friendship develops into more, she knows I would not do anything to jeopardize our relationship.
Being friends, honest and trustworthy is only one part of the puzzle. The second part is just as important. You need to have goals and strive to achieve them.
If you were a woman, would you want a man who isn’t doing anything with his life? Absolutely not! Then why is it the biggest mistake men make is thinking women will deal with the bull and settle for an unmotivated man who is not improving himself?
I don’t care what you think but having great sex will not keep a woman satisfied for long. Trust me when I tell you there must be more than hours of passionate lovemaking. Otherwise, you will be in big trouble with the ladies!
Remember, around thirty years of age many women desire to settle down, have kids, get married and hopefully live their dreams. A woman cannot see the dreams coming true with a nice guy who treats her good, but doesn’t make enough money to support a family. A woman knows stress and problems will definitely follow if she allows herself to get involved with such a man.

I’m not saying a woman’s focus is on money. Yet, she doesn’t want to have a partner only to suffer together when she could suffer alone. So, in theory, a woman believes when she settles down with a man that the combined income should make things a little easier than if she was with herself. You can split the pain and bills with a woman but have double the pleasure and fun! That’s the bottom line!
You don’t have to make a lot of money but it would be nice. You don’t have to have thousands in the bank but it would be nice. You don’t have to afford a house but it would be nice. You don’t have to have a goal to be wealthy and rich but it would be nice. Just make sure you can meet her needs, make her life a little easier and she will truly appreciate you.
As a nice guy, you should have achieved most of your goals and have a decent income. While the women were discarding you and going for the guys they thought were fun you should have been busy pursuing and achieving your goals. If not, you wasted a golden opportunity to stand out from the crowd later on in life!
It should be noted that when women overlook a nice guy it’s usually because he is, or looks, boring and just doesn’t appeal to them. It’s not a reflection on you as a person as much as women wanting to have fun and enjoy themselves.
Just because you are a nice guy is not the reason why women don’t want you. That is ridiculous! If I have to be honest here, I would say you are plain and predictable.  There are thousands of nice guys who date beautiful women that are fun and unpredictable.
I’m not saying you can’t be predictable. Just change up and get a little daring at times. Live on the edge sometimes. Do things that are out of the ordinary for you that won’t be too irresponsbile. Just have fun!
So, take an honest look at yourself and determine if you present the image you desire to get the women you want.
Let me give you an example. My friend revealed to me she couldn’t stand a man who doesn’t have a backbone. She was always taking advantage of, and walking all over, men. She wants a man to be “manly” and take control sometimes.
Fortunately for her, I am just what the doctor ordered and she has met her match. She laughed when I told her that but said, “I hope so because I need a man who will stand up to me. I’m tired of always getting my way. It’s not fun!”       (Part 6 Coming Shortly)

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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last ? (Part 4) What Is It That Women Need ?

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Part (4) What Is It That Women Need ?    By J. Foley

The question is, “What is it women need?” Unfortunately, many women don’t know what they need or want. Yet, you can be around when they figure it out.
You do this by meeting the first requirement--become their friend. Now, I know what you’re thinking, “I’ve been in that position before and the women always went out with someone else.” Yes, that may have happened in the past. But today is a new day! The women are older; their biological clock is ticking, they’re looking to settle down and the quality of men is dwindling.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying women are desparate. Many of them just want to be happy with a man who will love them, is responsible, assist with the household chores, bring home the bacon and don’t mind frying it in the pan too! Basically, women want a partner to share their life with who is on the same page as them.
As their friend, you get to learn more about them, what they like, dislike and discover how compatible you are with them. And the beautiful part is you are free to be friends with as many women as you desire. Therefore, you get a larger selection of women and can decide who closely match your lifestyle and can meet your needs.
The key is to be sincere in your efforts to get to know the women you are interested in. Your purpose should be to determine the best woman for you and then focus your attention on that one woman.
If you use the guise of friends as a way to manipulate and get women to sleep with you it will backfire. It may not happen today but trust me something will go wrong. Whatever you do it’s not a good idea to lead women on. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorn.” Don’t ever forget that.
Now here’s the fun part! As you get to know the women and they get to know you a few of them will begin to stand out from the crowd. Yet, there isn’t a rush to pick one until you are sure of what you want and need. Have fun, go out, experience new things and enjoy your time with the women!
It is also a good idea to be very honest with the women. Let each one know you have other friends as well. Don’t hide anything! Give each woman the option to continue to talk with you or not if they don’t like the idea of you having women friends.
This works in your favor and provides you with three benefits!
First, the women who continue to talk with you will appreciate your honesty, as it’s something they rarely get from men.
Second, the women who don’t stay save you from wasting your time and probably wouldn’t be a good match for you.
Third, if you are sincere in getting to know the women and do not sleep with them, it shows they can trust you to be around other women and not have sex. I cannot stress the importance of this benefit. Stay Tuned !

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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last ? Part 3 (What To Do When The Date Ends)

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What To Do When The Date Ends    BY J. Foley
This is probably the most intense moment of the night or date. What do you do? Do you kiss her? Do you hug her? Do you shake her hand? The answer is simple. What did her body tell you?
You read that correctly! Did she touch you while laughing? Did she briefly tap your leg while talking? Was she within your personal space for more than 15-minutes? Did she give you verbal hints? All of these things and more you must be aware of.
Let’s say for argument sake, you wasn’t paying attention but you think she’s interested. The way you find out is to put your hands on her waist and gently pull her into you.
Don’t kiss her. Just hold her close and tell her how much you enjoyed her company. If she doesn’t resist or pull away there’s a 90% chance you can kiss her with no problems.
If she doesn’t allow you to pull her into you then keep your hands on her waist and say, “When are we going out again? I really had a nice time with you?” Regardless of the answer, give her a nice big hug, which can lead into a kiss.
Your goal at the end of the night is to be a gentleman and get the second date. Now, if the woman asks you to come home with her for a night cap that’s up to you.

What To Do Afterwards
This is where most men screw up big time. The day after is the perfect time to establish who you are as a person. Yet, many men don’t call, email or do whatever they claim they were going to do.
When you’re dealing with women be consistent. If you say you’re going to do something do it. If you can’t do it then at least call and let them know.
For example, if you said you will call at a certain time but realize you can’t then call earlier and let her know. If you know her email address send a quick email too! Those little things will help you standout from the rest.
Remember earlier I mentioned most women are looking to have fun? Well, the second date should be one where you two could laugh i.e., comedy club, funny movie or play a fun board game.
If there is a connection between you two try not to move too fast. Take your time, try not to talk too much on the phone. Try not to see each other too much. Eventually, the newness of the relationship will begin to wear off and you’ll get back to your normal habits.
This is when reality kicks in and you start seeing things you never noticed before. Why go through that? Just be yourself from the start and everything will work itself out.
Always remember when it comes to relationships and dating time is your friend not your enemy. So make sure to take your time. Yes there's more ... Part 4  ... coming up  ... stay tuned
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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last ? Part 2 (What To Say ?)

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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last ? Part 2 (What To Say ?)    By J. Foley

What To Say ?

Has this ever happened to you? You see a woman you like, stare at her, but don’t say anything for a while. Then one day, probably after a few weeks for months, you make your move. Unfortunately, she turns you down and you feel bad.
I’m not sure how to tell you this but you screwed up! By staring or checking her out too long, you gave her the impression that you weren’t assertive and you lacked confidence.
How does she come to this conclusion? Other men have approached her within a few seconds of seeing her. Although, she may not like them she does love the attention.
I just gave you a key element in talking with women….they love attention. But they don’t want it from everyone. So, your initial approach should be simple and unique.
Depending on the situation and the women, I may say something like following that will lead into a conversation:
I like that outfit you’re wearing. The color goes well with your complexion and smile (you better be sincere).
Are you always rushing? When do you make time to relax?
That hairstyle really looks good on you. You should keep your hair like that!Very simple wasn’t it. Nothing fancy. And that’s the problem with most shy, nice and good guys…we make things too hard when it shouldn’t be.

How To Keep The Conversation Interesting

Never, ever talk about yourself unless the woman asks you a question. It’s a big turn-off and you will come across as being self-centered. Your goal is to keep the conversation flowing.
They way you do that is by understanding what women want. Think about this…if you worked all day (week), didn’t have time for yourself, had to take care of the children and house, how would you feel? Tired right?
Therefore, when a woman goes out she’s looking to have “fun.” She wants to escape from the real world for a little while. The way you help her is by talking about anything except sex, work and yourself.
Here’s the one line I’ve used that never failed me. And I do mean never! “You look so happy and relaxed. You must have recently come back from an exotic vacation.”
That question always got women to talk about them, their life, where they would love to go, and so on.
While she’s talking you must pay attention because she will give you the next topic to talk about without even knowing it. And this could continue all night long. She will defnitely enjoy your company because you will be talking about the things that interest her (it would also help if they interest you as well). See how simple that was?
One more thing. Since women are out to have a nice time they don’t want to be bothered with a man who has an attitude and is always attempting to get in their pants.
Don’t get me wrong. There are some women who only want one thing from you! ? However, most women want the total package or as close to it as they can get. To Be continued ... Part 3 ... Coming Soon !

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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last ? (Part 1)

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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last ? (Part 1)    By J. Foley

There’s a misconception that nice, shy and good guys finish last! I’m here to tell you it is far from the truth. While a lot of nice guys experience a life of being overlooked by the women they desire (which is usually because of their shyness), it’s just a phase they go through to appreciate themselves better. Generally, that phase occurs between the ages of twelve through thirty. It can, and sometimes does, last longer.

Over the next few minutes, I will explain to you in detail why nice guys do not finish last anymore and in the foreseeable future! It’s not as complicated as you think. Actually, it’s so simple if you are a nice, shy or good guy it will give you hope that things will work out for you in the woman department.

However, there are three requirements that will assure you are at the head of the line when women begin to pick their life partner. The requirements, while considered small things, are very, very, very important. Want to know what they are? Keep reading!

There’s a trend in the United States, and around the world, that’s been ongoing for at least two decades. There are more girls being born than boys. That means there are more women than there are men. This may not be important to you right now but it plays a huge role as to why nice guys finish first and not last!

It is usually around thirty years of age that women begin to contemplate their future regarding marriage, kids and settling down. Unfortunately, at that stage in life many men are either in jail, on or abusing drugs, gay/homosexual, dead or lazy as hell. That leaves women with a small selection of men. And that is a best-case scenario!

This plays into the hands of the nice, shy and good guys! When women are left with such limited options they either:
1.Reconsider their semi-false criteria for men, or
2.Give up on finding a man
As a nice guy, there will be hundreds of beautiful, sexy and intelligent women that will consider talking with you if you possess most of the qualities they need. Don’t think you can get any woman you desire without having your house in order. No sane woman wants a man with more problems and issues than she has. This subject to be continued so stay tuned, and please feel free to leave your comments & opinions !

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Dealing With Strong Feelings: 7 Ways To Get Over A Broken Heart FAST!

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Dealing With Strong Feelings: 7 Ways To Get Over A Broken Heart FAST!

By Cucan Pemo

A broken heart is hard to deal with no matter how the break up goes down. It is something that may hurt for a long time to come.  You need to figure out how to get over a broken heart when it happens. It may not be something that you want to think about but you have to do it because life does go on and you need to take advantage of it.

There are going to be different phases of the breakup. You need to go through them all so that you are able to achieve the sense of security and love that you once did.  Having these feelings are going to be good for you but you do not want to take them too far. This will only make things harder on you when it comes to getting on with your life.  There are predicable phases of a break up.  You may have been through them before, but there are some good ways to deal with your strong feelings and get over that broken heart fast!

You need to share your feelings. Getting out what you are feeling is going to make you feel better inside. You want to share these feelings with your friends and family or anyone that will listen to you. Having a good support is going to help you get through the tough times faster.  You do not have to let it out all at once.  Talk about it slowly and work your way up to getting it all out in the open.
Think about what is good for you.  You have to get over this broken heart fast so that you are able to feel better. You need to make good choices for what is good for your heart and soul. Make sure that you are not putting yourself in any situation that may be harmful for you.  Getting over the breakup is important and you need to do what is best for you.
Taking good care of you is important.  You want to keep eating and exercising and staying healthy. You need to keep your strength up so that you are able to be strong and able to feel good about yourself.  This will help you get over the break up and get back on track. 
Let it all out if you want to. Crying is good. You do not have to be embarrassed about crying.  It is part of life.  You will find that there are going to be hard times that hit you all of a sudden and you will feel like crying and letting it all out.  You need to do this anyway to keep your sanity. This will help you feel better and get back on track.  You need to do this when you feel the urge and do not worry about what others think.
Doing the things that you love the most will help you get over the break up too. You will want to make sure that you are keeping up with your hobbies and doing what makes you the happiest. You want to keep your schedule on track and stay busy. This will help you heal faster.
Keeping busy is key. You need to stay on the go and keep your mind occupied. This will allow you to keep those unhappy and undesirable life events out of your mind and keep you motivated to stay healthy. You want to make sure that you are doing all that you can to stay busy. You will want to talk to your friends, go out more and spend some time with your family. These things will make you feel better and help heal your wounded heart.
Time is of the essence. You need to remember that all wounds heal with time. You need to give yourself the time and soon you will notice that you are not feeling so bad and that life is good again. If you actively seek the answers to the problematic areas of your life which has caused your breakups, you will find the answers. Seek the help of an expert if you desire to restore your marriage or your relationship. Ask and talk to people who have successfully saved their relationship. Their insights and experience can help you pull through this period. Who knows, once you have it all figured out, you could well be on your way to save your relationship and have your lover running back into your arms again!
There is no need to worry when you are involved in a break up. Everyone has been through it and there is going to be happiness again. When a relationship breakup happens, understand that it is not your fault and do not put all the blame on yourself. It usually does mean that something has gone off-balance in your life and in your relationship and you need to put that balance back.

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